Above all else She cherishes Her slave, in the knowledge that the gift he/she gives Her is the greatest gift of all. She is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Her, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift. She is in control of Herself first and foremost, so that She may control others. As a stern and demanding Mistress, She can cause her slave to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, She will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character. In times of trouble, a Mistress will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between T/two caring individuals. She is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality. She would never ask a slave to put Her before his/her career, or family, just to satisfy Her own pleasure. To win Her slave’s mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, She knows She must first win his/her trust. She will show Her slave humor, kindness, and warmth. She always him/her that Her guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of his/her attention, that this is a Woman he/she can learn from, and trust Her direction. She is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, She will fight for Her man’s/woman’s honor. She proves to him/her that She is someone he/she can lean on,and depend on. When it comes time to teach Her slave his/her lessons of obedience, She is a strong and unyielding professor. She will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from Her student. Never does She use discipline without a good reason. When She does it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand. She is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear his/her wants and needs. She is patient, taking time to learn his/her limits, and knowing that as his/her trust of Her , grows so will T/they. he/she never has to demand ritual behavior by him/her . he/she responds to Her out of the want of pleasing Her. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. She understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Her. She is secure enough to laugh at Herself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. Her tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. She understands that E/each P/partner gains most from pleasuring the O/other. And B/both of T/them knows that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.